| Christina |
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This is my first time posting. Out of desperation I started looking around for some kind of support this morning. First a little background: I have three children, 5,8,&9. My 9 year old was first diagnosed as ADHD after being kicked out of preschool. Two years ago, after a suggestion from the school counselor we had him tested for autism. He was diagnosed as having high functioning Autism. He is currently on medication but still struggles with authority and getting along with his siblings. He is a very loving child and is now doing very well in school. At home it is another story. He is often very disrespectful to me and does not follow directions very well. I have learned to pick my battles and try to deal with it without totally destroying his self asteem. I realize that I am not perfect but I am trying. My husband on the other hand who is the stepfather to my 9&8year old has been with me since my 8 year old was born and has a very difficult time dealing with the kids. Him and my 9 year old are constantly at each other. Yesterday he finally had all he could handle and moved out. He said he is going to get counseling to learn how to deal with his feelings and stress level caused by the kids but I know I also have to take steps to better deal with the disrespect and defiance from my 9 year old. Our 8 year old has also been diagnosed with ADHD as well as siezure disorder. This just adds to the chaos. I guess I just need someone to tell me that they have been in the same situation and have worked through it and have been able to save their marriage and family. I don't want to lose my husband but none of us have been happy for a long time. And I won't choose my husband over my child. I need some suggestions on how to deal with the disrespect and defiance without causing more chaos and without totally tearing down my sons self asteem. I don't want to be yelling at him all the time. But I have to be able to change his behavior in order to save my marriage. |
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| maria |
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first know that you are doing the best job you can with the tools that are avaialbe to u. find the best ped nero you can afford make the app and then wait in the mean time produce a schedule for you son to follow with a reward/consequenc\se system for him to be accountable to, no tyou nor your sweety. explain to your son that in order for him to earn dessert or a story he must must must first to what ever is on the list, toothburshing, make bed, be politete......:} |
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| Amber |
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You're not the only one, my son with high-funtioning autism behaves very well now that he is in a school setting with other autistic kids, but at home he does not listen to my directions, does not respond to disipline, and is very agressive when things dont go his way, including biting, kicking, throwing objects at me, you name it. |
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| karen |
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This is the first time I've ever sat at the computer and made a response to anything. My 9 year old son was diagnosed as ASD at age 4 after a struggle beginning at his 18 month checkup. He was very speech delayed, tested, and we thought everything would work itself out. Soon after he was 2, he started waking during the night screaming. Nothing we could do would calm him. He would go open the refrigerator as if to want something only to throw anything we offered him. This is just a small idea of where we started from, but he now talks very well, is in a regular classroom in school (i only hope he can stay), is very outgoing, loves people, but lacks in social skills (the know how and what is appropriate). He is also disrespectful to my husband and I, others as well. We've only had a few problems in school, however, we have been very lucky with his teachers being excellent. It feels good to hear someone say they know how you feel and I do. My husband and I are still together. We do have problems, but they do not involve our son. He is very good with him and actually handles some situations much better than I do. He just gets to escape more often than I do. He does a lot that he wants to do that does not involve us (me, my 9 year old and 4 year old.) It takes a lot of patience and understanding, even when I don't want to, to keep things going. I feel like my life if slipping away sometimes and this is not how I pictured myself at 38 when I dreamed at age 16. 
Just know you're not the only one. Everything is difficult. We can hardly go out to eat as a family sometimes. That hurts! Going to church is sometimes difficult. My child is so about a TV, computer, or video game. He is just not playful with children very often. He entertains himself which can be a good thing, but sports etc are just out of the question.
I don't know you but will pray for you and your family. Good luck.
As I said, I've never done this so I hope I can make time to continue.
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| James |
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My son is ADHD, has seizures and autism. He is the same way violent, throws stuff, doesn't listen, regardless of how many times we tell him something. He has trouble sleeping, and from what i can gather has a high tolernance to his medication ( meaning he can fight what the medicine is supposed to do). I am finding myself constantly yelling at him and spanking him, even though I don't think the spanking does anything because he goes back to doing the same thing he was doing before the spanking. I have a bad temper and I need to control it but it is so difficult, we don'tknow what to do with him, so I feel your pain. He had a 15 to 20 minute seizure in november 2008 and ever since then it seems like he is getting worse in his behavior. It might be harsh to say but sometimes I want to get away from it all because I feel I am not fit to take care of him, I don't know if I am right or wrong in that statement because i try my best but it is so hard to deal with. If anyone knows what to do in my situation as well as all the other parents please help. |
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